Parents Hack 9 - Speaking Up & Speaking Out
Helping your child find their voice
What Your Child is Learning
This Hack has two important parts. Speaking Up means telling somebody when you're struggling, worried, being mistreated or don't feel safe. Speaking Out means communicating feelings, needs and boundaries assertively. Your child is challenging beliefs such as “speaking up is weak” or “nobody will understand”, and learning practical communication skills including I-statements, sticking to facts rather than exaggeration, and thinking about possible solutions.
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Try This At Home
Model the kind of assertive communication you want your child to use. Instead of “You never listen!”, try: “I get frustrated when I'm talking and don't feel I'm being heard.” Instead of “Why are you always so rude?”, try: “I find it difficult when I'm spoken to like that.” If we want our children to communicate assertively, one of the best places for them to learn it is from us.
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